17 Ways to get ready to be an empathetic listener

This morning, I went to a workshop at the local Unitarian Universalist Congregation on how to be a better white ally in the fight against racism. The workshop was held by the renown facilitator Dr. David W. Campt, who just publish the White Ally Toolkit Workbook.

55% of white people feel that racism against white is as big of a problem as against POC. Only 19% say they have faced racism themselves.

Dr. David W. Campt

WGCU published an interview with Dr. Campt prior of his workshops. You can listen to it on their website.

You are not going to move people with facts, no matter how well you state them.

What leads toward effective encounters?

  • Trying to find a point of mutual agreement
  • Telling them about your experience
  • Asking about values or experiences underneath their point view
  • Expressing that you used to feel like they do
  • Having them do thought experiments about life in different skin
  • Focusing on goals you support instead of realities you oppose
  • Talk about your prejudices

Strategies that focus on your own thoughts

  • Conceive of the person as a vulnerable child
  • Remind yourself That the listening process you are doing is part of a long-term, change process.
  • Remind yourself of qualities you like about the skeptic
  • Think back to a time when you very much wanted to be listen to
  • Think about things you have in common with the skeptic
  • Think about helpful values you hold, like empathi, curiosity and / or patience

Strategies that focus on the mind-body connection

  • Get centered by taking deep breaths
  • Imagine that there is a drop of superglue keeping your lips together
  • Look directly into their eyes 
  • Touching your tongue to the roof of your mouth
  • Shifting your position to one that maximizes your relaxation
  • Looking directly at their lips (or forehead)

Strategies that focus on the content of the exchange

  • Remind yourself that just because you listen empathetically to a point of view does not mean that you agree with it. 
  • Tell yourself to listen for experiences that may be similar to ones you have had
  • Get ready to listen for potential opening for future conversations
  • Remind yourself to listen for the underlying needs that are behind statements you will hear
  • Get ready to notice things you can agree on. 

About an hour into the workshop, I realized some of these strategies might also prepare you for the work as an empathetic support person on the Gutenberg plugin forum… 

Difference between a WordPress and Wix website

You can use your own place or your rent space.
You can use a professional or you use someone who know how to assemble things in Wix
You can use a free hosting or a professional hosting.
The choice is yours.
Does your customer care? Do you care?

An example of business who switch from a WordPress site to a Wix site.

Social-sharing is not attributed to the company’s website (domain) but to the owner of the site.
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It attributes the post to http://saraelizabethgordo.wix.com/ who is the owner of the site. Seems the domain name is only masked.

Rayo de Esperanza – A Beacon of Hope

Below are my photos of the Cesar Chavez Memorial Sculpture I passed by every morning and evening while staying in Austin Texas for the 2015 Nonprofit Technology Conference. I admit my knowledge about 20th Century History in USA is very fragmented. I came across the name Cesar Chavez just recently after watching the movie Food Chains which linked the current struggle of Immokalee’s Farm Workers to the California Labor Movement of farmworkers of the 60ties, lead by Cesar Chavez.
Shortly after returning from Austin, I watch on Amazon Prime the movie Cesar Chavez.
Trailers of both movies are embedded below the photo gallery.

Cesar Chavez – History is made one step at a time

Go to the website

Food Chains – The Revolution in America’s Fields

Go to the website

Tomorrow, March 31st is Cesar Chavez Day in United States.

Walking around Austin, TX during #15NTC

Thanks to Techsoup Global and NTEN, I was able to attend the conference and meeting in Austin, TX this month. I stayed with my fellow Netsquared Regional Ambassadors at an AirBnB house in walking distance of the Austin Convention Center. I very much appreciated the daily walks and my fitbit had me constantly way above my daily goal of 10,000 steps. Here are a few photos of my impressions. I still have to go through my phone’s camera roll and pull out some more.
They are all on my Flickr stream and I am using the site Flickrit to get the embed code for the below slide show.